It's always difficult when a relationship ends. Even a brief romance leaves something of an absence in your day-to-day existence, and flying solo once more can take some getting used to. When your former paramour has second thoughts about splitting, however, a failed relationship can turn into a dangerous situation.

One Man's Story

Such was the case for Jonathan DeCastro, a former resident of Newport News, VA, who relocated to New Jersey following a contentious breakup. DeCastro's former partner became angry after the pair split and began sending multiple text messages. Says DeCastro, “He definitely wanted to make sure that I knew that he wasn't going to leave me alone.”

When these texts failed to provide the desired response, DeCastro says, his ex came to his home and left messages on the windshield of his car. DeCastro was unnerved. His mental health was affected, and fear of physical harm crept in as well.

“Certain things that were said really did make me feel like this person might actually be capable of physically hurting me,“ explains DeCastro, who then went to the Newport News Police Department's domestic violence unit. They helped him obtain a restraining order against his alleged stalker and began the process of pressing charges.

The Law Doesn't Discriminate

Many people think that restraining orders are always taken out by women against men. In New Jersey, however, anyone in a “domestic relationship” with the abusive party can take out a restraining order. That term can refer to a current or former marriage, a couple who has kids together, members of the same household (as in relatives or roommates), or people who are dating. The results of the restraining order are the same, too: primarily, the accused must cease all contact with the plaintiff.

There Is Hope After Being Served With a Restraining Order

DeCastro's former partner, unable to cope with the stress of this accusation, died by suicide. It's important to understand, however, that having a restraining order taken out against you doesn't have to have a devastating impact on your life. Sometimes, the accuser exaggerates the extent of stalking or abuse that they have experienced. Other times, the situation escalates due to miscommunication.

A defense attorney with experience in this arena of law can cut to the chase and help clear up any misunderstanding. That way, the accused person can return to living their life without unfair criminal charges hanging over their head.

We're Here to Help

If you've been accused of stalking or harassment after a breakup, you deserve the chance to explain your case. Attorney Joseph D. Lento and his expert team at the Lento Law Firm are standing by, ready to listen to your story—and to tell you how we can help. Take the first step toward clearing your name by calling us at 888-535-3686 or filling out our contact form.