More Than Just Spanking: Alternative Forms of Punishment That Don't Expose You to Criminal Charges

Posted by Joseph D. Lento | Aug 17, 2023 | 0 Comments

Parenting is an ever-evolving journey and one that often takes us back to our childhood wounds. Although you may hear of other parents using alternative forms of discipline or redirection to improve their child's behavior, you may struggle with where to begin this process. Taking this step is even more challenging if you grew up in a home where spanking or corporal forms of punishment were the only forms of punishment used. Although there may be instances where you determine that spanking should be used, it is never too late to embrace alternative discipline styles that can foster a positive and strong bond with your children. Embracing alternative discipline styles can also prevent you from potential criminal charges or possible child protective services investigations.

The Significance Of Change

The first and most compelling reason to consider alternatives to spanking is to protect yourself from potential criminal charges in the form of child abuse charges or unwanted inquiries from New Jersey's Division of Child Protection and Permanency. This is especially true in New Jersey, which imposes increasingly stringent consequences such as jail time or hefty fines in child abuse matters. By shifting to alternative forms of punishment, you can avoid crossing the line between discipline and abuse, safeguarding your family's well-being and your freedom.

Punishment or Redirection, What Is the Difference?

Although discipline is a necessary component of raising happy, healthy, and respectful children, punishment itself should be used sparingly and with great thought. Instead of solely focusing on punishment, it might be helpful to adopt an approach that incorporates redirection and positive reinforcement. Redirecting a child's behavior involves guiding them toward more appropriate actions or activities when they exhibit challenging behaviors.

One effective technique for redirection is offering choices because it allows children to feel a sense of autonomy and control while still staying within the boundaries set by the parent. For example, instead of scolding a child for watching television, you can offer them a choice between reading two books. This approach empowers the child, making them feel involved in the decision-making process, and increases the likelihood of cooperation. Although you maintained control, you did so by working with your child versus simply demanding "cooperation."

You may be reading this thinking, "That's great, but we have much bigger problems than what vegetables to eat!" What happens when your child hits their sibling, speaks disrespectfully to you, or throws a tantrum that destroys everything in their path? While your first inclination in these moments may be to spank your child, you must ask yourself if you are spanking them because you are frustrated and need to let off some steam or if you think it will help your child understand the nature of their actions.

Time-Outs, Cool Downs, And Positive Reinforcement

Time-outs provide an opportunity for both the parent and child to cool down and reflect on their behaviors. If you have not given your child time-outs before, you should explain to them the purpose, duration, and location of the time-out. The designated space should also be a calm and safe environment, free from distractions and with minimal stimulation. This allows the child to self-regulate their emotions and provides an opportunity for them to practice calming techniques such as deep breathing or engaging in a quiet activity like reading a book.

Praising and acknowledging your child's accomplishments and positive behaviors can also be a powerful motivator that prevents the need for frequent discipline. For instance, if your child is behaving nicely in public, let them know how kind and respectful they are and treat them to something small on the way home, like an ice cream treat or a simple activity they love doing with you. When children receive praise and recognition for their actions, they are more motivated to repeat those positive behaviors. Who doesn't love being celebrated?

Seek Professional Support

If you find it challenging to break the cycle of spanking and need guidance on alternative forms of punishment, don't hesitate to seek professional support! Parenting classes, counseling services, and resources in your community can provide valuable insights and practical tools to help you navigate this transition successfully. Remember, seeking assistance is a sign of strength and a commitment to your child's well-being, not your weaknesses.

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