When arguing, things can sometimes get heated. Intense emotions may drive people to take drastic action if they're not careful. Such was the case for 62-year-old Evelyn Sampson and her victim, a man on whom she poured boiling water.

Even the most disciplined people lose their temper on occasion, especially when going through hard times. Although it's important to control your emotions, you deserve a strong defense if you lash out. If you've assaulted someone, call the Lento Law Firm Team at 888.535.3686 or fill out this contact form to get representation.

A Quarrel Gone Wrong

Evelyn Sampson and a 69-year-old unnamed man were arguing at an apartment complex on Lehigh Street in Hackensack on Wednesday, May 15. Around 10:00 a.m., Sampson dumped scalding water onto the man, after which he contacted local police. He was later treated for minor injuries at a hospital.

The police are charging Sampson with second-degree aggravated assault and third-degree weapon possession. Thanks to New Jersey's laws on assault and firearms and weapons, she could spend anywhere from three to ten years in prison and may have to pay a maximum fine of $15,000. Currently, she is at Bergen County Jail, awaiting trial.

How to Deescalate Tense Situations

As with the rest of the United States, New Jersey law treats assault as a serious crime, even if the provocation is understandable. In case you become involved in an argument that makes you feel angry or scared enough to resort to a violent crime, here are a few ways to avoid worsening the situation.

Force Calm

Consciously lower the volume of your voice, refrain from using coarse or insulting language, and keep your arms folded or neutral at your sides. If you pretend to be calmer than you truly feel, your body may believe it and self-soothe long enough to resolve the dispute.

Show Respect

Keep at least two or three feet of distance between you and the other party. Not only does this make them harder for you to reach in case you lose control of yourself, but it shows that you respect their space. Also, do your best to validate their feelings or point of view.

Take a New Approach

If you're arguing, then maybe it's time to rethink the way you're trying to fix the problem causing the disagreement. Focus your mental and emotional energy on looking at different angles of the issue rather than on arguing your point. You might find a better solution that way—and you're less likely to make the fight physical.

Remove Yourself

Sometimes, you won't have the patience or energy to resolve the source of the argument. In that case, just get away from it. Go to a different room, or head outside for a drive or a walk. Don't interact with the other party again until you've both cooled down.

Are You Being Charged With Assault?

Just like Evelyn Sampson, you might not always keep your temper in check. If you assault someone, the Lento Law Firm Criminal Defense Team will provide the defense you need. To schedule a consultation, call the Lento Law Firm offices at 888.535.3686 or fill out a contact form.